Getting your heart broken is one of the worst feelings one can experience. It can feel like you’ll never truly move past the sadness that you’re experiencing. It’s not uncommon to feel this way, but we’re telling you that there’s hope. We’re offering some advice on how to move on after a heartbreak, so you can start to begin your healing process.
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Allow Yourself to Grieve
The end of a relationship comes with a wellspring of emotions. The stages you go through after a breakup include denial, anger, confusion, depression, and eventually acceptance and peace. Not surprisingly, these are the same stages that are experienced with grief.
Oftentimes, people associate grief with the death of a loved one, but the same feelings occur when you lose somebody due to a breakup. It’s incredibly important that you allow yourself to go through the grief process so you can truly heal and allow yourself to move on in a healthy way. Give yourself space and time to go through the emotions, and you’ll come out on the other side a much happier and more peaceful version of yourself.
You may have heard of the no-contact rule. Essentially, this is when you go silent after a breakup. There’s no texting, calling, checking their social media, or speaking with others close to your ex. Going no-contact is incredibly challenging for people after a breakup. They’ve become so accustomed to reaching out to their partner when they’re going through an emotional battle, and now that person is no longer there.
While we know it’s challenging to avoid contact with your partner, it’s crucial to your healing process. In order to move on from the relationship, it requires that you start looking elsewhere for emotional support. If you have children with your ex, be sure to keep contact to a minimum and only when necessary.
Slowly Get Rid of Reminders
It’s not uncommon for people to scroll through old photos and text messages as reminders of what they once had in the relationship. However, this is a form of self-sabotage, and it will prevent you from fully moving on. As we said earlier, you have to go through the stages of grief to move on from a relationship, and the last stage is acceptance.
If you’re constantly looking back at the relationship and using your imagination to still keep them alive in your life, you’ll never be able to accept that the relationship has ended. We’re not saying to delete everything and throw away reminders all in one, full sweep. Instead, slowly start to get rid of these reminders over time. It’ll be much easier and more manageable this way for you. It wouldn’t hurt to have a friend or family member help you through this process.
Practice A Lot of Self-Love
After a breakup, people usually feel lost or an absence of love. For so long, their main source of love was through their partner. Once their partner is no longer in their life, it can be hard to feel good or worthy as an individual. That’s why it’s paramount that you practice a lot of self-love when you’re going through a breakup.
There are plenty of ways that you can practice self-love, so it’s important that you choose a method that resonates and works for you.
Here are some self-love ideas for you to try:
- Daily positive affirmations
- Mindfulness meditation
- Yoga or Pilates
- Gratitude journaling
Surround Yourself with Support
You don’t have to go through a breakup alone. In fact, reaching out to loved ones for support is a great way to make the healing and grief process easier for you. Don’t be afraid to contact friends and family members as you’re going through a breakup. The vast majority of people have experienced a painful breakup, so you can be sure they understand what you’re going through.
Surrounding yourself with support after a breakup helps you to feel more connected and less isolated from the outside world. Typically, people feel this lack of connectedness after a breakup, which is why it’s helpful to be around others after a breakup to remind you that there are still plenty of people in your life who love and care for you.
Explore New Hobbies
You may be tempted to sit on the couch with a bowl of Ben & Jerry’s and watch sad movies after a breakup. While this is okay immediately following a breakup, you don’t want to make it a habit. Instead, use this time to explore and adventure through the world around you.
Breakups make a perfect time for you to explore new hobbies that you always wanted to try but either your partner wasn’t interested, or you just didn’t have the time to do so. If you’ve always wanted to try salsa dancing or dabbling in acrylic painting, now is an excellent opportunity to do so! It will also help you to keep your mind off of your ex.
Time for Transformation
A breakup, while difficult, is the best time for you to have a complete inner and outer transformation. Your identity is no longer tied up in your partner. Now is the chance for you to reconnect and explore who you really are, what your dreams are, and what you want from life. It’s a time for transformation.
When you view a breakup as an opportunity to enhance your relationship with yourself, it becomes much more exciting. The relationship you have with yourself is one that will always be there, and now you have the opportunity to make it as strong as possible. Use this time wisely!
Breakups are never easy. No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s an emotional connection there that’s now lost. As long as you give yourself time to grieve, go no-contact, get rid of reminders of your ex, practice self-love, connect with loved ones, explore new hobbies, and embrace the transformation – you’ll come out of it on the other side in an incredible way.