We have a friend staying with us who loves to ski and skateboard (he was “Extreme Skier of the Year” for Latin America in 1997) – and he’s been teaching our kids to skateboard. Here is Stella on DAY TWO:
She’s barefoot so she can feel her balance. He held her hands and taught her the proper positioning… then when she had her balance, he let her go…
I almost didn’t share this video because I know someone will say, “Please put a helmet on that girl,” and will totally miss the whole point.
Look at her. She is totally present in that moment and feeling powerful in her body.
If that video makes you nervous, my daughter is also has killer knife skills:
Well, she’s working on it.
I feel like my main job as the mother of this little girl is to hold open the space for her to do these things even if it makes other people nervous. I want her to be confident in her body, to do things that are challenging and to master skills. “This is what your body can do Stella!” is what I think when I see her accomplishing these things. She’s so young, and I’m a relatively new mom, but each time I feel like it’s a small deposit into the no-eating-disorder savings account, which is something you think about a lot more after you have a daughter. And for me, like most moms, I’m already conscious about how I limit or empower her – in little or big ways.
So I’m going with empowerment. Look at her. Kills me every time.