8 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 22
Author’s Note: Thanks to everyone who posted such encouraging words to yesterday’s post. I’m definitely still going to Spain in July, so don’t worry–I won’t be abandoning the plan. Whether I will take this freelance assignment has yet to be seen, but I am taking everyone’s advice quite seriously. P.S. After reading the comments, my husband said to me, “told you so”.
When I was 22, I wouldn’t have listened to my old curmudgeonly self. I would have said, “You don’t get it”, then put my headphones back on and headed over the Haymarket. I might have written about it on my blog over at TheGlobe.com (remember that site?) under my pen name ‘nehalennia’. 1999 was a great year, and I was going to make a million trillion dollars working teh internets. Instead I got laid off from my dot com job and ran into the warm embrace of reliable employment. So despite the fact that I wouldn’t have taken my own advice, here are 8 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 22:
1. Pick a career you love; you don’t have to give into the pressure to be practical. Everyone changes careers over their lifetime; why not experiment with one that you are crazy about? Worst case scenario, you go get that crappy corporate job when you’re 28 and let the cool waters of 9-5ing wash away any memories of your failed Falafel-R-Us Gift Basket business.
2. Pay off your credit card debt and don’t buy so much stuff. Does every college do this? Offer credit cards at the student union, and in exchange for filling out an application, they gift you a candy bar? I was hungry! I was broke! Sign me up! Thankfully I was so thoroughly burned the first time, I learned my lesson.
3. Your student loans can be deferred practically indefinitely. After graduation, just call them and ask for a deferment. They will bend over backwards to make deferring easy to do. In six months when your deferment is over, call them up and do another. Repeat as needed.
4. It doesn’t cost as much as you’d think to travel. You don’t need to save $50,000 to spend a year overseas. If you’re young, willing to sleep anywhere (hello, couchsurfing!) and go to countries off the beaten tourist track, then you can survive on much less (I’ve heard as low as $1000/mo).
5. The job you have right now is not that important. If I were an employer I would only hire ambitious twenty something’s. They will knock themselves out working incredibly hard on stuff that barely matters. Try to get a 35 year old to take photocopying that seriously and you’re more likely to get your dog to iron your suit in the morning.
6. You don’t need a safety net. You can figure this out. The idea of being out there, with nothing to catch you if everything goes wrong may make your stomach do little flips, but really, you’ll be just fine.
7. This is the best time in your life to travel carefree. If you wait it’s going to be more complicated financially and emotionally. Now instead of putting on a backpack and heading out the door, I’ve got to cancel leases, forward mail, set up online payment arrangements, sell a ton of stuff, convince my family that I don’t need an MRI “just in case this idea is a sympton of a brain tumor”, and wrangle with complex stuff like dodging the “when are you going to have kids” question.
8. Did you read #7? Go Travel Now!
If you were giving advice to your 22 year old self, what would it be?
This post totally resonates with me. Wish I’d really known #2: I’ve spent the past 10 years paying off that $1.99 tube of toothpaste I bought when I was a sophomore and had no clue what an interest rate was.
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Thankfully I work at a credit union and I found out about #1 when I was 20 and I’ve only got a computer loan to pay with no interest! Buy something on a credit card: pay it off next paycheck!
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Oh, and when I DO turn 22, I’ll tell myself: repeat what you did when you were 21. Soon. Man, can’t wait to turn 22!
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Excellent advice! I started traveling at 19, not for months on end but in between jobs and school, and it’s certainly true that as you get older it’s harder to squeeze travel into your increasingly complicated life. Plus, your tolerance for lumpy mattresses in noisy hostels tends to decrease. My husband and I have encouraged our kids to travel, and one daughter took a year off after high school and worked until she had enough money to explore Italy by train and hostel for two months. Best decision she ever made. Our younger son is looking into Volunteers for Peace, which is a huge clearinghouse for voluntourism and gives you a place to stay and usually food in countries all around the world in exchange for some labor: http://www.vfp.org/
They specialize in 2-3 week placements, but offer some long-term projects as well. And you don’t have to be a teenager to sign up.
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Hit the nail on the head! If I was 22, I’d tell myself to go travel more and play less poker!
When I was 22, I was thinking of 401ks and careers but really, I should have been thinking about full moon raves and seeing Rome. Now, I’m living a 22 yr olds life. I feel 23 so why not act it!! Age is only a number right?
Everyone gets on me about traveling but, you live life once! Everyone worries about money but I’ve found if you are versitile and willing to work, you’ll get by just fine b/c like you said, you don’t need much stuff!!
ps- I’ll e-mail you re: dinner
pps- I stumbled you !
@Julie: I know! It’s amazing what kind of damage you can do with a $500 credit card and complete denial that this will come back to haunt you!
@Anthony: That’s great that you’re travelling now at 21… you’re smart for making the leap!
@Marilyn: Thanks for the link, that’s a great resource for folks thinking of taking the plunge. Also, have to say I love Intelligent Travel! Thanks for stopping by…
@Matt: I was actually thinking of you when I wrote the ‘how much it costs item’, because I know you’ve been able to travel extensively on a limited budget. You should write an article on the “drop dead cheapest budget for world travel”. PS Thanks for the stumble!
Hi Christine!
First, I felt a bit bad about bullying you with my pushy little “Go to Spain” speech earlier in the week. Travel and living abroad has changed my life… I wanted to share that with you.
I love the list! 22 was actually the worst year of my life… there were so many things I should have known but didn’t… although, like you, I’m not sure I would have been open to the advice and good counsel of older, wiser creatures.
Here’s what I wish I had known at 22:
9) Instead of spending time looking/searching for someone amazing, BE amazing! The challenge is to be interesting and passionate and kind and engaged in your life. Love will come. (And it did… a little later).
10) I wish I had known (by this I mean that I wish I had really, truly understood) that someday I would die. I would have spent less time feeling sad or bored or complaining or looking at the clock during class. Now that I’m in the middle of my life (rather than the quarter mark), I live more fully.
11) Mistakes can be great teachers. At 22, I was terrified to screw up and this fear prevented me from taking some important risks. Now I try to learn from my mistakes and I feel less afraid to change my path, change my life. (Just like you are doing!) I’ve also learned that a lot of things can actually be fixed. If I have a conversation that goes badly, I can go back to that person the next day and say, “I’m really sorry that I hurt you. Let’s try again.” That’s so cool!
Great post! Thanks!
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Wow, these are good ones, including Teacher Girl’s!
I was lucky enough to travel a lot in college, but I definitely wish I’d known that I didn’t have to turn into an “adult” once I graduated. I was so worried about money and becoming successful that I denied myself a lot of opportunities all throughout my 20s.
Now I’m making them up in my 30s and not looking back! In fact, I quit my job on Monday and leave for Madrid next Friday (although unlike you, Christine, I’m only going for a week!) Who knows what I’ll do when I get back. I’m just trying not to worry about it!
@Teacher Girl: Wow great additions, all things I completely agree with (and wish I had thought of!). I especially relate to the last one… afraid of making mistakes. Isn’t it amazing that the time when you have the least to lose by taking chances, that you’re the most afraid of doing the wrong thing!
@Travel Betty: Man you are putting me to shame!! Here I was worrying about moving to Madrid, and you’re making it look easy
Love your blog (Thanks to Nomadic Matt’s blog:) ). I’ve been reading a lot of travel blogs and researching a lot about extented travel because I too want to see the world. I’ve traveled a lot throughout the U.S. while broke when I was in college (and you are right, you really don’t need a lot of money to travel), and now that I’ve been in the corporate world for a few years, I do understand why you want to quit the corporate world and travel.
When I was 22 I was, like Nomadic Matt, thinking about 401ks and careers, and although travel was on my mind, I didn’t think it was a practical choice at the time. Now I am at the early stage of planning my extented time off (a mini retirement from the corporate world you could say) that hopefully will take off in the next year or two.
you can travel for much less than 1000/month, depending on were you go. i meet a guy who was in Mongolia and he had spent ~$30 after a month. my budget in australia was ~$700/month.
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Someday you’re going to have to do things you really don’t enjoy. Start practicing now so you don’t feel like a miserable failure when they come later.
I love #1!!! It kind of ties into: don’t work yourself to death! Don’t have a full time job to supplement your dream job, just do your dream job with all your heart! Enough really can be enough, and you can burn out.
Very good article. It’s so true what you say. I had a chance to travel, but I wish I could have travel more, if you are in your 20’s and reading this…Travel!
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain
I have been fortunate to have lived 6 years in 3 different countries between the ages of 23 and 32. The experience has changed me on a profound level. Go! Go and see this world, meet people and discover who you are! Ultimately this is your life and in the end, not a single person will care about these achievements: 401k, the size of your house, that promotion and the countless hours it took to get it, how much you drank last night and that you can do it again tonight. What will matter is, that you have willfully exposed yourself to living, learning and loving.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.” - Mark Twain
#3 is a good way to turn $24k in student loans into $58k. guess how I know.
I’m definitely having a quarter life crisis right now and here I am at 3:20am stumbling and I find all of you people and all I can think about is what to do next.
I’ve been wanting to travel again and all of you are close to making me not re-sign my lease, put my furniture in storage and just go somewhere.
I’m at my wit’s end not knowing what to do with myself –tomorrow, next week, this month, this year. I can’t really figure out what to do in the next 15 minutes. I’m jobless, brokenhearted and in debt already.
Somebody email me with some great ideas. Maybe one of you will actually convince me to drop everything and go.
Well, I’d say manage that debt first because it won’t go away and if you need a sudden infusion of cash via credit card, you can do that. (you don’t have to pay it all off before traveling, you could defer or talk to your creditors into receiving a smaller monthly sum). The heartache and work situation are temporary and will change. Sorry that you are going through this though… If you are going to travel for any length of time you are going to find a job. One of my more interesting jobs was bartending at an Irish pub in Sweden that was owned by an Iranian!! No joke! …and yes I did find love there btw…
@Hill: I know the feeling… I would agree with raypainter’s advice, dealing with your debt should be a priority first, although it doesn’t necessarily prevent you from traveling now. I’m not 100% debt free, I still have some payments I will continue to pay while traveling. If you can find work overseas (a question you’ll have to research… depends largely on your specific ability to get work overseas (au pair? teaching english? working for a US company remotely?) and if you can manage to support yourself abroad (often cheaper than supporting yourself in the US, depending on what country you live in) and make your monthly payments, then I would say go for it!
Traveling won’t solve your problems, but if want to do it, there is no reason you can’t make it work…
I really like the idea of traveling with little money. I have never been out of he states and am working toward doing that before the end of the year. These are great tips and I will use them to help me in my life.
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i’m much in the same mind set as Hill. i’m a little heart broken and frustrated with how life is going for me right now. i’m just finishing up my first year of college and i have no idea whether I should come back next year. i love the idea of traveling but i’m afraid of losing what i have here or missing something. i’m really looking for a reason to travel but i don’t know if i can justify it.
cujo: look into a semester abroad - the best of both worlds!
Hill: I agree with Christine
, traveling won’t solve your problems (whatever they may be) and some will even follow you! What you gain by traveling is an experience and life skills that you will be able to draw upon for the rest of your life. Additionally, you never know who you will meet and how these friendships will change your life. I have many friends in Holland as a result of making a good friend from Amsterdam while traveling in Costa Rica. We all have been friends over the last 12 years and visit each other often.
Cujo: If you are interested in integrating college and travel, why not look into a semester abroad or the semester at sea program. Most colleges have international connections with other universities and frequently exchange students. Semester at Sea is usually an around the world trip on a cruising ocean liner where between ports students take classes preparing them for the next country. The semester abroad has more cultural immersion.
The extreme college/travel experience is the World College Program in New York. I attended this school for 4 years, living in Kenya for a year and Costa Rica for two years AND received college credit for it
http://www.brooklyn.liu.edu/globalcollege/
I really enjoyed this article. I have always wanted to travel the world more than anything. I am 22 myself and so far I havent been anywhere, mainly because I have lived a sheltered life (I live in Iowa where there are little to no opprotunities) and I have no idea how to go about travel. My main concerns are A)deferring my loans since I dropped out of school what exactly do you say to the loan people when you want to defer your loans? what is the excuse you give them? and B) the fact that I had desk jobs and any job that doesnt change for that matter so I never have much money and by much i mean only a few hundred at a time. any ideas of ways to make money to travel or good jobs for a person with basically no money who wants to travel for work?
Jenny, if you are a little athletic, you could work for a bicycle touring company. You could start within the U.S. and possibly work with a company that provides international tours as well. You won’t make much money, but you’ll make some and travel a little before investing in a costly plane ticket. I’m just writing off the top of my head here since I don’t know what interests you have. You can find work as a bartender just about anywhere, but that usually happens once you are abroad….
Any one else with some ideas?
Some more possibilities for work that can supplement your travel costs:
1) Working as an au pair (nanny)
2) Waiting tables and bar tending
3) Working at the front desk of a hostel
4) Teaching English at a language institute, a local school or, if you are an educator at an American or international school
5) Travel writing
6) Working on a cruise ship
Many of my friends who have taken long trips worked for a certain period of time (a year or two) with the goal of saving money for their travels. Some lived with their parents… but they all lived frugally so that they could save as much money as possible for their trip.
Dream big (but stay out of debt)!
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Hey, I love reading travel blogs and this post was excellent, as were the comments. After high school and a year of not doing much i joined the military and spent six years in a job i disliked. I left the forces and traveled the world for around 14-15 months… 36 countries and about 14,000 dollars… If you are outside of n. america or western europe you can easily spend under 1000/mo… i spent reasonably liberally but always sought the cheapest hole for accomodations…. had an amazing adventure.
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Great tips! I can only confirm that traveling for young people isn’t expensive at all! Go and see the World!
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where is a good place to look for jobs abroad? are there agencies set up for that? or should i look when i start traveling?
@Cujo: RE: Resources for working abroad…
I am putting together a list for you and all those interested today and you should see something posted shortly.
If you guys have any suggestions for Cujo and other travellers, leave them in the comments and I will include them on my list.
Thanks!
5/28/08 Update: I have posted a list of online resources here: Making Money While Traveling: The Quick Guide
Hill: I totally know the feeling…quarter life crisis thing, been there myself:)
As for droping off everything and go, I would find a way to take care of the debt first (don’t have to pay all off at once before you travel), then figure out how you can save some money for travel. Once you make travel your priority, you will learn to figure out ways to save for it (live frugally (do you want a new shirt/cable (fill in the blank here) or do you want to travel), take up a second job for awhile, stay out of debt, work abroad, etc.)
Cujo: I agree with the others: definitely think about studying abroad.
I wouldn’t quit school just to travel because you learn and experience a lot in college (in and out of class) and your degree will take you farther than you think no matter which area you choose. I traveled a lot when I was in college on the weekend, during the holiday break, and summers and that definitely broaden my mind a lot.
Jenny: I live in Iowa too and yes, had a very sheltered life:) until I got to college and really started to travel, and that broaden my life, my mind, and my perspectives on life and the world.
Everyone:
In response to the questions about how to get work online and some resources, I have posted this article: Making Money While Traveling: The Quick Guide.
Check it out and let me know it this is helpful.
Thanks!
Christine
I like the list. very true except for #5. I find that 35 or older people are more likely to be willing to wash the toilet so to speak than the 22 year olds. the 22’s seem to want life handed to them and have not figured out that pretty much not much matters besides how you live your life. Not what you get. The older people seem to understand this much better.
@Rod: I’ve known some pretty amazing 22 year olds, and I have to say their fatal flaw may be more related to the fact they still think things will work out for them if they work hard.
I know some amazing 50+ people too. I think it depends more on the person than anything else.
In this article I was talking to myself at 22, and I was super motivated. I literally had a temp job after college that was photocopying all day, and I did the best, fastest job I could do. It was a 1 week job, and I got it done in a day. My reward? They sent me home for the rest of the week. So basically, I just knocked myself out on any job I had, regardless of any benefit. I just wouldn’t do that now, and I don’t think most people my age would take such things as seriously.
It did work out for me, because I did turn one of those temp jobs into a systems developer position, by the brute force of my will. Might have saved myself some of the stress of it though in retrospect.
Christine,
I wish people around me knew what you know because I refuse to take one of those type jobs, I hate to “work” and by work I mean a job sitting at a desk doing somethign meaningless that I dont care about and my parents keep going on and on about how i need a job but I just want to travel. I wouldnt mind “working” if it were something i believed in something to help endangered animals or something involving travel. but I hated college and dropped out so the peace corps wouldnt take me and in iowa there arent many jobs availible period, let alone in areas of my interest. That is why I want to move back to California where I briefly lived for a few months last summer, there are lots more jobs there and its a warm beautiful place, I just feel like a helpless kid since my parents dont agree with me they wont help me and I have no idea how to go about moving finding a place, and a job that will pay the rent and the student loans i have racked up because without a degree I dont get opprotunities that I feel I deserve (but thats a whole other venting paragraph haha) My dad thinks I should conform, take a desk job, make money and accept that as my life and I just refuse. Id rather anything than that. I looked into becomign a travel agent but couldnt find any clear information on how to go about that, there are some random online programs that seem fishy to me and schools in far off places that are expensive and of course I have no money and dont even know how reputable they are or if being a travel agent would even give me the travel I want. some listings I saw while in california woudlnt hire a person who hasnt even traveled outside the country yet. So I feel lost and confused and helpless and I probably sound whiny, I just wish there was a step by step list of exactly what to do so I could get the hell out of iowa and find myself in a job that i would like to save money for travel or else a job that IS travel.
Teacher Girl,
I had thought about working while abroad too but when I did research and tried looking for positions alot of people i talked to told me its very hard to find work in a country where you need sponsorship without a degree (which I dont have or want) because its expensive and they would rather hire locals than bring an foreigner over. I know I could work here and save money but I hate Iowa so much and the jobs here are pointless stupid ones that I cant make myself care about, thats why I was trying to find a job that I could do in the US to save for travel that would be worthwhile and fun or connected to travel somehow. I like the idea of working with kids or animals and working outdoors, otherwise I love jobs where you go from palce to place all day and its always different. I thought it would be fun to be a professional organizer since I love to clean and organize things, or a travel agent/travel writer, but I dont know how to just go and be something like that, you dont see ads in the newspaper for jobs like those and some of that may just be because I live in iowa where everything sucks, I dont know.
Christine, my outgoing e-mail is down… working on the smtp server…
Jenny, I don’t want to sound preachy but you are in the best situation for saving major $$ right now. Living with your parents is the best way to save. Rent is paid, food is paid, you might even have the use of a car as well! In that setup working even at a poorly paid job will allow you to save. In less than a year you could have enough to travel for two depending on where you went.
Moving out to Cali is the quickest way to working hard and not saving a penny. Ask yourself what your priorities are. Finish college? Meaningful Job/Career? Travel? All three? In what order? And focus on the goal…
raypainter-
yeah I know you are right thats why i came back after I dropped out, I hated college it is everything that is NOT me to make it short haha travel is what I want most, the only reason I want a meaningful career is because I figure I have to work at SOME point to get money so I dont die and if I have to work then I want to work in a job that I love and that I believe in. I know I cant be a travel writer if I dont travel so I know in all actuality that I wont “have” that career right now, so I am trying to think of other unconventional jobs that would make me happy and I just dont know if staying in iowa will do it, and if I stay and save then I go travel then all my money is gone and I come back to iowa again? that is what scares me. I dont know how long money will last abroad and I dont want to be right back at square one thats the only reason I was thinking of moving first, because if I lived in a warmer climate with more to do I wouldnt be as miserable in the waiting period while I saved, although I wouldnt be able to save as quickly I might find a rewarding job there that could lead to travel opprotunities or at least keep me happy while I save. I may even meet friends to travel WITH and we could split some costs. I guess I just dont want to stay put here because im afraid the longer I stay in iowa the more unhappy ill become and if the world ended id rather have spent my time in a beautiful warm place with activities to do and friends to be with than sitting here wishing a fairy godmother would save me
Thank you.
I am twenty, and your advice means a lot to me. I take my job far too seriously, want to travel but have no vacation time, am on the brink of debt and use my parents as my safety net. Your post made me think - my current job is not my career. I sure can call out sick, vacation time or not, because now is the best time to go to Brasil, Japan, Europe… wherever.
Thank you again.
@Jenny: Thanks for your candid comments and sharing your story. One thing stood out for me is that you don’t know what to do, so you haven’t done anything yet.
The worse trap you can fall into, is be afraid of picking the wrong thing, you pick nothing. You end up taking the path of least resistance. A very boring life living at home, not traveling, not going to school, not working at a job you like.
The Fix:
Pick something now. Pick, and don’t worry about it too much. What you would do tomorrow if you could?
Flesh it out. Is it travel? What country? Where do you want to live? What kinds of things would you be doing. Then set your goals on that.
I agree with Raypainter… you’re in the best position to do something amazing starting right now. You just have to decide what it is. There is no step by step, these are the hard decisions you have to make!!
Then, when you have decided, come back here. Tell us your dream plan. Then we can point you in a direction. You can literally do whatever you want. Go, decide.
Christine, Well I guess if I could do anything in the world right now I would go to Africa and go on a safari becuase that has been my dream place to visit my whole life. I want to see the elephants especially and lions and everything and also visit Egypt and see the pyramids. Thats why I looked into the peace corps since Africa is an option of a place to work but they said without a degree it was a waste of my time to apply. So then I researched other options of volunteering in Africa or of trips but everything was a few thousand dollars plus the plane ticket which is the most expensive ticket of any destination I’ve researched yet so I became discouraged.
@Jenny: Ok perfect. So here is what we have. 1. Africa. 2. Volunteering 3. Need to raise funds.
Rough Budget:
$2500 for a 6 month volunteer program in Africa
$1500 for flight from NY ($1300 flight plus $200 bus ticket Iowa to NY)
$2500 pocket money for 6 months ($100 a week)
=$6500 for 6 months living and volunteering in africa. Your pocket money should roughly be enough to take a safari as a side trip or spend a couple weeks living in africa after your volunteering effort.
So here is your goal. Raise $6500 in 6 months.
- Spend nothing. Continue to live at home. Save every single penny you can.
- Tell friends and family about your plan. Blow off any misgivings. Be strong. Tell them instead of gifts for your birthday you want cash for your trip.
- Defer your student loans for 6 months. Tell them you are going to volunteer overseas.
- Write down your reasons for wanting to go. Think through all the benefits this trip will have on your life.
- Keep people in your life up to date on how much you’ve saved and how much you have to go.
- Get a job. Or a second job. Offer out your services. Mow lawns. Walk dogs. Tell people about what you’re doing.
- As you get closer to your date raise funds. Lots of people have hit me up for their volunteer trips, and usually a nicely crafted letter will do the trick.
- Start a blogger.com blog to keep track of your fundraising and spread the word.
- Set up a table outside the grocery store on saturdays if you have to and make posters about where you’re going, what you’re doing and why you need their donation.
- Write the local paper in your town in Iowa. Tell them what you’re doing and why you’re collection donations.
Then you go to Africa. You write about it. You send your articles all over the place both online and print publications. You decide if this is what you want to do. If it is, you’ve just opened a bunch of doors for yourself– degree or no. You could work at a non-profit, you could get writing assignments, you could go back to school for journalism if you love it. You could hit the road again.
A woman I know raised $10,000 to run the Dublin marathon for cystic fibrosis in 6 months. It can be done.
Ok, don’t let me be the only one to throw out ideas. What other advice can we give Jenny?
I can TOTALLY relate to how scary it is for you to quit your job and take off - we’re doing the same thing.
In ten days we will fly out of Boise with our ten-year-old twin sons, three bicycles, two trailers, and a whole lotta food and gear. And then we will spend the next 2 1/2 years riding said bikes from Alaska to Argentina.
Are we scared? You bet! Do we wonder if we made the right decision? At times. Will it be a wonderful experience? Absolutely.
You can read about our journey at http://www.familyonbikes.org
I couldn’t agree more with the carefree traveling! Get out there and have some fun.
I’m 22, and I’m getting ready for the most exciting travel of my all life ! I can see myself through your post…:)
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I totally agree with this post. ESPECIALLY #1. I made this mistake and wasted
about 10 years of building a career that I hated. I abandoned it all in my early 30’s, threw caution to the wind, and pursued a career in film and video production.
Which is what I still do today in Las Vegas.
I have sworn to teach my son principle #1 from the time he could speak to the time he is ready to go out on his own: Find a job you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life!
Andrew Hamilton
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Hamilton International Productions
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i really wish my parents would let me travel more…
I’m only 16, but still. after school I’ll definitely go somewhere!
Brilliant, these are essential tips for anyone in their twenties!
Realize you do not need to be the leader/manager/boss. That it is good to be a follower sometimes.
Understand that most of the people at work will not matter in 5 years. Do what is right for you and your friends.
You will figure it out.
Be kind.
40YearOld: Good added advice!
OK where were you when I was 21 cuz now I’m 35 and wanna kick someone every time I approach the copier.
Wait a second… *I’m* 21! Thanks for the advice, but I learned the credit card lesson on my own, unfortunately. I’ll take the rest to heart!
Great post, Christine!
What do I wish I’d known when I was 22?
1) After you graduate, no one will ever look at your transcript again. Your grades will not define you. Turn off the computer and go to bed.
2) After you graduate, no one will ever care how many extra-curricular activities you coordinated or how many committees you were elected to. Put down the clipboard and go have some fun.
Love this post… absolutely love it.
I just graduated from college, 2.5 weeks ago. I am jobless (though i am looking), virtually broke, and living at home which has been KILLING me.
I went abroad 2 years ago to Vienna, Austria and fell in love with backpacking/traveling. I plan on working a landscaping job, to earn some capital… buying as many shares of VISA as possible.. and then running away for a month and see where I end up… I would like to go overseas again, but no matter what anyone says.. its going to be at least 1.5g minimum for flights off the bat (short notice etc…)
Is there anywhere fantastic in the states i should check out (im from new england, CT)… and how should i do it (i’ve got a leased car with a limited amount of miles per year, so driving hinders me somewhat as does the expensive fuel prices.)
Peace Corps 001: I learned the credit card lesson the hard hard way too. If you can’t afford to pay it off, don’t use it:) It took me 2 plus years to pay off my credit card balance from college…and it’s not even a lot!
Congrats on your graduation JamesDady!
Eva: So true what you wrote! Couldn’t agree more!
This blog makes me feel sad.
I am 22. My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a three year old son. We just bought our first house last week. I love to travel. I am currently a junior in college, and I was able to go to Germany this past spring break with a class, that was the first time I’ve been outside of the US.
I keep telling myself that my time will come once I am older, but I am sad to have missed out on these backpack/adeventure/peacecorp days. I was so excited to get married and settle down.
I just keep telling myself that my time will come.
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Rachel: Don’t feel sad.
I want to amend this post to add: “There is no Right Way”.
Look at this way, you will be 37 when your oldest goes to college. You can travel the world while I’m in my early 40’s and chasing a screaming 3 year old around and wishing what I really knew at 22 was I should shut up and have kids already while I still have energy.
You’re in an awesome phase in your life. If nothing else this blog is about enjoying your life now, whatever that means. For me it’s travel. For you it’s family and a sweet house. There is no Right Way.
I agree with you Christine. And who say you can’t travel with kids??!! I see that all the time! Did you read the comment from the family that travel on bikes? I thought that was awesome! When I have kids, I want to travel with them everywhere and teach them about the world.
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I’m glad that i’ve found your blog. It’s good to know that there are others out there living with the same philosophies that I hold dear.
Never, ever have a girlfriend.
That girlfriend you are with at 22 wont be there when you are 30, and she will have kept you from:
- travelling,
- fucking a load of nice women,
- being experienced with women
- some of your hard earned cash.
Ahh to be twenty two again! Those were the days!
JT
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Don’t ever go back.
Christine–
Great stuff. The Haymarket! Small world, I’m from Amherst. Good luck on your travels. I envy you.
Hey, I just got here through Digg. I loved this post! Of course, at 22 I already had 2 kids and one on the way, so my options for travel were more limited. But I will only be 42 when our youngest leaves home so I am looking forward to travel then. In the meantime, I have a tradition of taking each child on a trip when they turn 14. My first son chose to go to London, my second son to Paris. My daughter’s trip is next summer and we can’t wait!
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Great post Christine! I actually found out about this article on the http://www.designerstalk.com forum and the title just caught my attention since I’m 23.
I’ve always been greatly interested in traveling. Some things like student loans and credit card debt has held me back but over time i always tend to calmly think about what i want to be doing in the next six months and i do a little something to get where i want to be. For instance, I grew up almost my entire life in the states and last year in September I left my web designer job of 2 years, was doing good actually, and moved to Peru, which is where I was born. But now im struggling with trying to travel more because i succumbed to a job in the family business. Frankly not doing much here since my uncle who happens to be the boss doesn’t get along with me very well..and besides a distribution company doesn’t have much use for a graphic designer after a few months work.
cheers!
-Fer
You’re stupid to tell people they don’t need a saftey net…
it’s people who has that thought which causes us to go into debt as a nation, as well as individuals filing bankruptcy and using those credit cards you oh-so-declare not to use. It’s one in the same…
Don’t be naive, have a backup plan in case something major comes along (car accident, accidental death, birth, etc).
The rest I can almost agree with; except i don’t think everyone needs to travel… i think most people actually need to focus on the local area they’re in and try to improve it.
but what do i know, i’m only 25 and most likely have more money than everyone who’s commented, and i have everything a guy could want:
- Badass Jaguar, Viper, Corvette (68), and lastly my prized shelby cobra
- A 7000sqft house, filled to the gills with cool shit like plasma TV’s, etc etc.
- King Air (it’s a plane guys, a plane)
- An awesome Wife
I did NOT inherit any money, and i’ve worked my ass off since i was 14. I lost my parents when I was young, and have had to struggle through most of my young life, but I have learned more than most people will ever know.
Only words of wisdom I could give is “Do what you love, and love what you do”
Anyone that is 22 years old that is reading this and finds this advice enlightning should march on down to their local Navy recruitment office. They’ll get the same list, with a another arms length of bullet points of how they can accomplish these things with the help of the Navy.
Eh - most of this advice is one particular path through life that may work for some people. However, those that work their ass of in their 20’s are often the ones that also end up retiring in their 40’s with enough time and money to truly do whatever they want in life.
My suggestion - work real hard in your 20’s - I have no regrets that I didn’t do the backpacking thing. I still had a blast in my 20’s but I also worked long hours. Take a vacation or two every year and you’ll still see plenty. Then when you’re 45, you’ll be relaxing on a beach in the Caribbean smiling and thinking about those 23 year old backpackers you knew who are now fighting to make ends meet and raise kids in their 40’s.
Spaz-
This article was written with people who want to travel in mind — not targeting the entire population. Some people have no desire to do so and will sit back and enjoy their life in a non-traveling way. But yet others want to do more — see more.
And if material things are what make you happy, then congratulations on the success you claim. I’m 22 and while I would like to have modest possessions the things you have listed are just that: things. In the end, they will provide nothing more than a waning memory.
Traveling, or something of the sort, will provide an insurmountable experience that will go with you the rest of your life. You’ll eventually have to replace everything you have now with something bigger and better (either because they degrade or because they’re old). It’s a constant process. But sitting back and taking in the exotic locales or different cultures — or even simply the fact that you’re not at home — isn’t something that can be so easily replaced.
Personally, I think the world would benefit a lot more if they didn’t take your advice at all.
*No one needs travel.* I can’t emphasize this enough. Travel benefits no one in a modern developed country, as we have access to essentially everything and better.
If you’ve read this, you have computer access. You no longer need to see Venice/Japan/Wherever because you can scrounge up thousands of photos of every place you would go via Flickr. You can find the spices in the food you’d eat in online stores. You can find classes offering the exact same things you’d do somewhere in your nearest city.
Pay off your debts. I cannot stress this enough. You did not “deserve” that education - pay for it and stop leeching off of other people. You go without what you cannot afford, and that includes goofing off and drinking your years of college away.
Stop thinking you’re a unique butterfly who gets to flutter off to new places and experience new things because you’re young. Stop thinking you are immortal and that you have an infinite amount of time to make bad decisions.
To me, this advice is useless and contrary to being a responsible member of society.
Stop wasting your time. You don’t get much.
As a reference, I am college-educated, responsible, debtless 21-year-old with a concrete job who realizes how stupid young people like the ones being encouraged really are.
I have to disagree with you on points #1, 5, 6, and 7.
1. Pick a career you love; you don’t have to give into the pressure to be practical. This is bad advice, because the reality is that the “cool careers” are, for most people, impractical if not impossible choices. I live in New York, so I’ll point out the obvious, which is that the 22-year-olds who work in publishing, the arts, and the like do NOT pay their own rent. They’re parentally supported, which leads to the paradoxical result of unpaid publishing interns living in much nicer apartments than young Wall Streeters– pretty much the only New Yorkers under 30 who can afford to live there on their own steam.
Market forces ensure that, at a given level of education, work that is enjoyable pays less than other work for no reason other than because it is enjoyable. This is good and bad, mostly bad– good because it provides a way for the grunt work to get done seamlessly and efficiently, but bad because the enjoyability of work is actually pretty highly correlated to its usefulness to society, while this dynamic encourages pointless, dead-end activity while punishing a lot of useful work– a garden-variety local artist is 20 times more useful to society than the average white-collar office worker, but the former starves, must quit and do something else, while the latter flourishes. The result is to encourage not merely the completion, but also the creation, of unnecessary unpleasant work, and to steer our society toward a dearth of originality. This is actually a catastrophic social problem that threatens our society’s future existence, but that’s an entirely different discussion.
The differences in wages and prospects among career tracks are due to market forces– competition, and the point here is that entering a “cool career” inevitably involves competition with the children of the rich, who can work for a pittance (or unpaid) because of their trust funds, and who can work 80 hours per week because their parents hire maids. I’m sorry, but your advice is impractical: telling the average college graduate to enter this rigged game is just dangerous.
#5. The job you have right now is not that important.
I disagree here, too. It’s true that most 22-year-olds are working very hard at irrelevant grunt work, but if they toss caution to the wind and “follow their dreams” for five years, they’re likely going to end up as 27-year-olds doing the same grunt work that could have been gotten out of the way half a decade ago– with bosses who are younger than they are! I don’t think there’s any way around the inevitable professional hazing other than to suck it up and go straight through, and I think that most people would rather get it out of the way at 22, when they can have nervous breakdowns or develop self-destructive habits with limited consequences, than in their late 20s or 30s.
You’re absolutely right that the actual work done by the average 22-year-old is of nearly no importance, and will inevitably be forgotten within a couple of years, but positioning and brand-name are of critical importance. For most ambitious young people, the 20s are a desperate scramble to become the “protege” of someone important and be “made”, since every young professional who is awake has already learned that hard work and talent have almost nothing to do with it, while connections and permissions rule. Doing unimportant work at a place like Goldman Sachs provides the remote possibility of becoming someone’s “protege”, whereas doing unimportant work for a two-year college’s IT department does not, and that’s the essential difference. In practice, the “protege” phenomenon is so rare that most people need a couple decades in order to have a chance, and entering the game at 30 is like losing half a box of lottery tickets.
6. You don’t need a safety net.
This is the worst advice ever. Subprime aside, most people who run into financial failure do so not because of buying boats or second houses, but because of unexpected disasters like medical bills. People fail every day not because they’re stupid or lazy, but because of very real pitfalls in this society. You’re absolutely correct, by the way, with point #2– running a credit-card balance is utterly stupid. What I’ll point out, however, is that for most lower-middle-class Americans, credit cards *are* the safety net.
7. This is the best time in your life to travel carefree.
You’re half-right. Travel is extremely problematic for Americans. For most of us, it’s prohibitively difficult at any stage of life. We live in a Third World, failed society where there is no universal healthcare, and where there is no federal vacation floor. Most companies have shitty vacation policies, and the result is that most people will not be able to do any significant overseas travel until retirement.
What you miss is the fact that someone recently out of college is a nobody, and cannot afford a long resume gap, since he’ll be competing against hundreds of people without such gaps. You might consider the “nonconventional” job applicant who eschewed work and traveled for a year to be a more interesting, original, and complete person than the horde of young resume-padders, and you’re almost certainly right. But your positive view of such a person is not mainstream, and 95+% of future employers are going to look at someone who took a year off to travel around Europe (regardless of the facts) as a lackadaisical, spoiled rich kid who couldn’t figure out what to do with his life, and who is probably looking for a job now only because his parents’ portfolio is doing poorly. It’s an inaccurate and extremely unfair judgment, but you’re deluded if you don’t think a well-traveled, under-padded 20-something is not going to run into it.
My only advice would be to stay single. You don’t need a girlfriend. Staying single will allow you to meet a lot of girls, but no one will be able to hold you back from doing what you want to do. I’m 35 now, and have my first girlfriend who I am marrying this summer. I have had hundreds of short-term relationships in the past and have gained lots of experience. I have learned so much about life and have had the best childhood anyone could dream of and feel I am now ready for a long-term relationship. It’s only going to get better from here out
My father told me when I was young to “not get too involved with a girl while you’re young–save that until you’re old like me.” I followed his advice and I’m glad I did.
Couldnt agree more with Mike Church.
In the end people are going to do what they want to do. Just don’t come looking for free handouts in 20 years because you didnt save when you were young because you were too busy traveling.
If you were giving advice to your 22 year old self, what would it be?
two things you should get alot of while youre young are sex and real estate.
Yeah. Don’t be me. I finally decided to move away from the home town at the ripe age of 26. I hadn’t even decided where to go, only that I was going to move. Two days later I found out I was going to be a father. So much for moving. I used to think things were difficult-travel and saving money and all-but I’ve realized that I HAD BEEN wrong.
I’ve traveled throughout sub-saharan Africa and Central America. Airfare is another matter, but traveling on $10/day is quite reasonable. In the ‘third’ world, typical bus fare to the next town is normally less than $2. Villages are normally $0.50 rides apart. If you have any kind of investment portfolio, it is not that silly to post a net profit in a year of traveling.
Figuring out what you want to do career-wise and going back to school when you are mid/late 30s SUCKS beyond belief. The number 1 goal for early 20s is to KNOW THYSELF — figure out what you want to do with your little scribble of life on the planet.
this list is so on point I need to send it to my 19 year old sister its not to late for her lol. Thanks for sharing great work!
Mike Church: I appreciate your well thought out comments, and taking the time to challenge my positions.
I agree with you on most points, but I think I’m coming at this question from a different angle. You mention for #1, that the “cool jobs” are difficult to get. No doubt. I was thinking more along the lines of not getting a traditional 9-5 job at all– like trying my hand at writing a novel or starting a business or any number of things. I don’t even think I would have been successful, but I would have liked to try. That’s my personal perspective. You’re experience may be completely different.
I also didn’t address the pay vs. job enjoyment factor, but you picked up on something I think is important to underline. From my perspective, making the most possible money is only a limited source of enjoyment for me. Making money has always been a means to an end, and when my salary doubled, then tripled over my career, I didn’t find my quality of life increasing. I suspect, and I am testing this theory in front of the world, on this site, that I will be happier making a living wage, with increased control over my lifestyle, than I ever was making the “big bucks” and very little control.
On #5, I was being flip, and a lot of people called me on this. Naturally if you want to move up in certain competitive careers, doing grunt work well and hard is critical. From my personal perspective, I wouldn’t have stressed myself out that much. My first job wasn’t even in the field I ended up in, and I allowed myself to get stressed over petty things that ultimately didn’t have any impact on my future career.
On #6, I respectfully disagree. When I was 22, the idea of moving overseas was very scary to me. I could get mugged! I could get sick! I imagined all kinds of horrible things. But the truth is that traveling is about as safe as living in a major US city. The likelihood of something terrible happening does not increase dramatically because you cross the Atlantic. While I agree that having financial backup and proper health insurance is important, I don’t think it’s any more dangerous if you’re in a flat in Paris than a studio in New York.
On #7 I half disagree. I think as with anything there is a risk of misrepresenting yourself. You could tell your employer you spent the last year getting drunk in Bali. But as someone who has interviewed future employees, with gaps for travel and for other things (like divorce, child birth etc) I don’t think they will make assumptions that the person is rich or spoiled. At least I didn’t, and I don’t know that my fellow managers acted any differently.
Mike, I do appreciate your comments, so I apologize if it seems like I’m singling you out. But I did want to take a moment to address some of the comments on this thread and your response was so thorough.
Thanks to everyone who has visited the site and to those who have commented. Even if you don’t agree with my article, I appreciate hearing the feedback. I do hope that I can make this site useful for people who are interested in taking a similar path.
Thanks,
Christine
almostfearless.com
It seems to me that a few of the responses have all but said that traveling is useless, does not further your career and leaves you in debt. Keep in mind I am paraphrasing several contributions into one sentence. Travel, when done right is none of these things. The lessons that a person learns can be applied for a lifetime and I don’t mean in some esoteric soft skill. I will use myself as an example although I don’t engage in talking about myself very often. Every time I have returned to the states I see opportunity for business here from things that I have seen work very well abroad. As a result I have started 3 business and sold 1 sans business degree. I do some part time interpreting as a result of the Spanish that I have learned while studying marine biology at a university in Costa Rica. Other languages: Swedish, German and some Swahili. If I were to employ anyone with travel experience I would consider it a major plus because they have had to adapt and think very creatively AND rationally in order to solve and issue. IE figuring out the bus/train schedule although they don’t know the language, making a local/semi local telephone call from a telephone booth… it isn’t easy and not intuitive! Making friends with sign language and laughter!!!
Over come your fear
My argument on point #1 wasn’t that the jobs in the “cool careers” are hard to get. I don’t think that they’re terribly hard to attain, with a degree from a strong college. My point about competition was in the sense of price wars rather than exclusion. Because of the trust fund toddlers who would do these jobs for free, firms in the “cool careers” can pay poorly, and college grads without parental resources are not likely to be able to live on what is offered.
As for #5, I’d agree with you that a lot of things that seem critically important at 22 are, in fact, not. I don’t think doing well on the average entry-level grunt assignment matters, in the long term, any more than a grade in a college course. However, an assignment that might lead to better assignments, or a star mentor, is of much more importance. Most young professionals don’t have the perspective to tell the important assignments from the chaff. They tend to err on the side of presuming all assignments to be important, because firms are good enough at hiring and firing to filter out, or get rid of, those who would err the other way.
On #6, it seems we’re talking about entirely different things with the term “safety net”, because I misinterpreted what you meant. Your point is that travel abroad isn’t really that dangerous, and I agree. My point had to do with the concept of a domestic “safety net” that has nothing to do with travel. I misinterpreted your point about the “safety net” to be a general one, rather than a specific one regarding travel.
As for #7, I was probably overreaching with the claim that someone who took a year to travel would be seen as rich and spoiled, but I still maintain that most employers wouldn’t excuse a long resume gap because of the person was traveling.
An established freelance writer or tech consultant can get away with traveling for a few months or a year, because he has a reputation that won’t fade significantly if he takes some time off. But a 2x-year-old nobody can’t really afford to have a long gap on his resume, and travel doesn’t sound better to most people than “I read, and took walks in the park, and went to parties”. Like it or not, the boneheaded macho culture that rewards presence and sacrifice over performance and potential, and that punishes perceived self-indulgences such as voluntary employment gaps, is still very much in force in most of corporate America.
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I love your post, traveling is the most rewarding thing in the world, im 18 now .. college next year but in the summer of 2011 im going back packing through europe! been planned for a few years now and it’ll work out even if i go on my own!!
While it’s true that it’s best to know these things when you’re young, it isn’t impossible to decide travel at any point in your life. You just have to be willing to re-prioritize and let go of some of the things by which society measures success (career path, house, etc.) . . . or learn to incorporate adult responsibilities into a life of travel. If you really want to, you can do it at any age. (Some) People in their early 20’s aren’t necessarily equipped to appreciate everything that a trip abroad has to offer, and they may be seeking something different than someone in his or her 30’s, 40’s, or 50’s.
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ok to whoever made this… i truly believe in traveling when you’re young, im barely 18 yet i’ve had the opportunity to spend one semester in Quebec, for anyone wondering i lived in mexico (i’m a mexican), i’ve also spent time in the states and i have to admit, the best experiences i’ve had have been when I’ve decided to take a walk into the unknown and find something to do, lately, meaning Quebec it was with my camera, and apparently i’m not that bad at it, the problem with traveling right now is im kinda already old for the grade I’m in… not because i’m stupid or failed but because of a stupid teaching system i went through in a school that, well very stupidly added a year of schooling that did practically nothing. i’ve still got 1 year of high school left and I’m in the midst of deciding a career… from 2 very opposite poles…. one is the very respectable bio-engineering career, and the other one… pretty risky photojournalism (which is my dream and considering i’ve not found a single person who lives that lifestyle to actually have a talk with)… my dream is NatGeo… cus i believe that a photo has great impact and can create conciousness…. im rather bold in the things i do and say yet if someone could help plz i really want to travel and i dont mind not having much material things, I’m happy with my camera, does anybody know a link into that kinda job so i can travel while shooting photos? plz i have very little time to actually take the career decition and i have to prove a good front to my parents otherwise they will not sponsor my photo dreams as career…. any help deeply appreciated
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if photojournalism is your dream, then go for it man. Don’t do what your parents want you to do, its your life, not theirs. In the end, you will be the most sucessful at what makes you happy, and if you’ve found that in photojournalism, then dont let anything stop you.
Amen! Ok, so I’m only 24…but I HEARTILY agree with every point you have here. Esspecially #1. I just switched jobs from a legal assistant where I was getting screwed over and completely used for my ambition, to an unsteady job at a local entrepreneur centre where I’m LOVING every minute of my job like I never have before. #1 is what I was struggling with for so long. “Do I take a job I know will last and will be what I SHOULD be doing? Or do I take a job that I know I will love and will be satisfied at if only for a little while?” Grab onto the second one every time!
The traveling advice is great too. Even if you run out of money while traveling, make sure you have a work visa and you’ll never be short (:
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Great post!
I think there’s a lot of truth here - even though I disagree with a few points.
I’d add: Children change everything.
I am in my mid30s. I’m a lawyer married to a lawyer. The legal profession doesn’t lend itself well to travel, depending on what you do (of course, as I say this, hubby is in Germany).
When I was younger, I traveled everywhere I could. I grew up in the rural south, I had no money but I knew that I wanted to see what else was *out there*. I was lucky enough to see some pretty amazing places.
Now that I have small children, I hope to pass along a love of travel to them but it’s far more complicated than it used to be. I used to be able to pack up on a moment’s notice and fly away - now there are school and dance schedules to work around. My children still travel - my (now) 2 yr old flew over to the UK with us in March - but it’s not the same. It’s much, much harder.
So, I agree that you should travel as much as you can when you’re 22(ish). The whole world is out there waiting.
And no, pictures are not the same as having a beer in a Czech beer hall or eating from a street vendor in Singapore. You don’t feel the same way staring at a computer screen as you do looking out over the valleys in Wales from atop a mountain. Not even close.
As for those folks who talk about finances and material things, you know, whatever floats your boat. But personally, I’ll say that when I graduated from law school, my husband and I both made really good money but worked long hours. So we paid someone to clean our house, do our laundry and mow our lawn. We ate out every night. When we made arrangements to have someone walk the dog, we realized that we were paying someone else to live our lives for us. I missed my old life (ok, not the laundry part). I wanted to get up each day and be excited about my day. So I changed things - I now love what I do (still a lawyer but I own my own firm, also a blogger).
Money is important but - as cliche as it is - it doesn’t buy happiness.
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I enjoyed your advice! thank you
Seriously man some of you guys (most of guys) need to grow the hell up. All my life people have told me you need to travel, find yourself, figure out who you are, be free, have fun, and no end of other STUPID advise. The things that really matter in life are these:
Family
Family
Family
If you have a sucky family then I am seriously sorry for you, but my family are no picnic. My mum was a pot head manic depressive who hung herself, my gran was the founding secretary of the National Front for f**ks sake, my dad is a failed entrepreneur and for many years an alcoholic, my brother is a bloody communist, the other just plays computer games all day, the third is in care and we only get to see him once a month, I spent a few years in care myself, my grandfather was a Nazi holocaust denier, my aunt hung herself two days ago… okay you get the picture my family is screwed up, but they are still the most important thing that you will ever have in your life. And they are all the more precious because they’re not always going to be there. If I could go back in time and talk to my 12 year old self I would tell her to grow the hell up and stop being so selfish spoilt and self centred. And that’s what I’m telling you people now. Some of you have kids and I’m sure that they are the joys of your life and I’m proud of you and them. There is nothing that you can do in this world that is more wonderful than bringing children into it. Lots of children. They are the future.
Yes I want to see the world, but I don’t want to backpack and be all hot and sweaty and worried about how I’m going to eat whether I’m going to sleep in a bed or a haystack. I want to travel with my husband and kids when I have had a fulfilling life and deserve some relaxation.
My advise to all you people out there that are my age (19 or there abouts) is:
1. Get a job - join the army: good pay, great benefits and takes care of point 4
2. Get married
3. Have some kids
4. Give something back to your country
5. Make a pile of dough
6. Then treat yourself - go travelling, have a swimming pool installed, employ a maid to do the house work, whatever you like…
My most important piece of advice is: Don’t while away the best years of your life on yourself. While you are young and able; make money, do some good in your community, inspire the local kids to make good of their lives, anything! There is time enough when you are older and less able to do stuff that matters to treat yourself.
Traveling is good if you enjoy traveling, you might also want to consider finding a career that you enjoy doing. Then there will not be a need for such escapism. I enjoy traveling, but also enjoy my work. Benjamin Koshkin - http://www.benkoshkin.info
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thanks for the thoughts!
nice1 keep up with it.
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I’m 22 now. Damn…….
Stumbled upon your blog and read a few entries. I enjoy the way you write, and I am impressed with the way you view the world and your experiences despite the overwhelming tide of opinion that what you are doing is wrong. I am 22 now, wishing I had the money and support to do what you are doing. I have traveled extensively (for my age) and I have felt the type of freedom you are seeking (or have already found…and are reaching for seconds) and I just wanted to wish you the best of luck in your travels. Btw, sweet domain name.
-Geoff
PS - spend a little time in India, it will really flip your world upside-down. And the people are really nice.
My 22nd year is just about over, and I am taking all of your advice to heart. I realized pretty young (over the past year or so, after graduating from college) that there is a lot more to life than getting a degree, a cushy job and good status in your community. What you are doing takes some real guts and I admire that. I wish you the very best on your travels!
As a 37 year old, I can say that the following items are also good advice for the more advanced in age:
4. It doesn’t cost as much as you’d think to travel.
5. The job you have right now is not that important.
7. This is the best time in your life to travel carefree.
I travel a bunch, and people are always amazed that I can. It is all a matter of priorities. Whether you are 22 or 37 or 67, an amazing life is still out there. Grab it.
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wish i was only 22 or less right now.
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No. 7 works for me… ohhh, thanks for the push! I hope its not yet too late for me to travel!!!
Hope everybody has (or had) a nice holiday.
Hey, I remember TheGlobe.com quite well. I even remember the username ‘nehalennia’, which I guess is only natural considering I helped you pick it out. ^_^
Christine, thank you so much for what you did for me back in 2001. You literally saved my life. Not so long afterward I was back on my feet enough to fly away on my own multinational voyage, and it makes me very happy to know you and Drew are off to see the world for yourselves now.
Bon voyage from an old roomie! And all the best to you, now and ever.
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It’s great to hear you’re doing well… I’ll shoot you an email.
I doubt you can live with $1000/mo in vacation, at least sleeping in hotels
if you go to hostels maybe
if you decide to sleep wherever you are ( kind of fall asleep drunk at a party of someone you don’t even know, sleep at train stations etc…)
however with a bit of organization you can save a lot and travel not spending a lot, you just have to plan a bit before leaving and make smart decisions when you’re travelling
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I wish I had known these things when I where 22. Nice Post
great article, thanks for sharing.
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I hope your right about the safety net. i am 22 and this is whats killing me. I know i shouldnt worry so much about this but how can you not?
for US1000/month…go to he Philippines. $1000=P45000. on a monthly basis
you can get the following for that amount:
1. house/condo - P20,000
2. food - P 6,000
3. transporation - P 6,000
4. recreation - what’s remaining!!!
Great post. I have enjoyed all the comments and the lively discussion. I agree that it is easier to travel when young, before taking on the additional responsibilities of supporting a family, paying the mortgage or the car loan or pursuing a career path. However, it is all about choices, priorities and balance.
Traveling while in college, or immediately after college, is an excellent way to spend longer periods of time travelling while still persuing long term career goals. I always regretted that I was unable to spend a semester or year abroad during college and I have encouraged my college age son’s to build that into their college experience. Living abroad is much more difficult to work into your life later in life.
I have had a very successful career and have been employed continuosly for over 30 years. However, we have taken a 3 week family vacation every year, travelling extensively throughout the US, Canada, Mexico, Asia and Europe. These trips have provided rich experiences for our family and wonderful memories. My kids are both in college now and they still look forward to and make time for our family vacation.
When the boys were 8 and 10 years old we took them to Europe for 3 months. This was a magical trip for our family and it was amazing to watch my youngest son go from worrying about how he was going to order food without speeking the language(something that was very important to him) to becoming a confident international traveller. The kids learned that they could spend an entire day playing with kids who spoke no English, communicating without words. They learned about the world and about themselves, and were amazed at how much their travels enhanced their study of history, geography and world events. Most importantly, the bonding that took place during our travels resulted in a closeness that never wavered through their adolecence and into adulthood.
There is no question that travel is worthwhile and valuable. For our family, travel was more important than buying bigger and better things. When necessary we lived more frugally in other areas to be able to afford to travel. We also chose to travel on a budget to make it more afordable. Again, it is all about priorites and personal choices. But then that is what life is all about.
So my advice is travel and experience life to it’s fullest but don’t do it at the expense of getting a college degree, developing marketable skills and building a solid financial foundation. It may not be easy to have it all but with effort it is possible to have those things that are most important to you.
The good thing about this information technology era is the Internet. It has transform the way we do business and the way we see employment. Now travel and employment can be one and the same if we get it right.
A number of individuals have been able to create information guides to places they love and earn and income from it.
If you are twenty two and you get it your growth, your education and your employment could be one and the same.
So if you are 22 make it count, enjoy your travels and your experiences.
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What a great post. Makes me look back on my twenties and regret not doing more travelling when I was that carefree. The problem is you always feel like you are in a race against time. All the people who don’t travel and go straight into work after education make you feel like you are falling behind.
My addition to the list therefore - don’t think about that - your experiences will be far more memorable than those of the people sitting behind a desk!
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Thanks for the post I’m 20 right now and just decided to leave school and go enjoy life for a bit.
Thank for the great article. I am over 22 now, but I still can’t pick a career I love.:(
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I’m 20 and I’m going to take all this advice seriously. Last summer I paid for myself to go to Bulgaria, Canada and Martha’s Vineyard. I believe traveling is more socially educational then school (assuming you’re the kind of person who enjoys new people and new perspectives). Next summer I might try Philippines, Czech Republic and Brazil or Columbia. Anyone have any better suggestions?
One more, learn to check your ego at the door. It usually only gets you in trouble.
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After 4 months of being in Ireland (my first real long term stay overseas), I wish I could go back and yell at my 22 year old self and and say, “Don’t give up that dream, you WILL get out!” I have to say that #4 is the most real one for me right now. I’m just a college student living off minimum wage and somehow I’m here- thank God for amazing friends!
Christine,
I’m so happy to have found this post. On more levels than one. I’m preparing for a cross country drive from Boston to San Diego. I’m trying to get my 23 year old brother to take the journey with me. He graduated from college this past May, and has fallen victim to the current economy [i.e. he's jobless] - unfortunately, landscaping in New England doesn’t last much longer than November :). In any case, he’s currently living with & off my parents, so they believe they have the final say in what he does.. I’m pretty sure he could swing this trip - and we’d do it cheaply, tough times for everyone! He hasn’t been to many places outside of New England, and I think that this type of eye-opening experience could really help him grow as a person. I plan on showing them this post. Very, very closely.
Additionally, this post has helped me to open my own eyes as well. I quit my corporate job at the end of August - at a company I’d been with for 3+ years (second job out of college). It was hard to leave my friends, but easy to leave the monotony of office space. When I turned 27 in October, I started to think that I was too old to move across country. I now think very differently. Thanks for the added encouragement!
Best,
Suz
“3 Troopin’ Travelers”
Hey, came across your site from matador travel, very cool! I’m 23, and currently planning the next phase of my life as a traveler (and student with no money) and actually, I appreciate your advice!
Very interesting post…
As someone who up-and-moved to Morocco from the US at age 23, on the one hand it’s reassuring to read a post like this and feel that I’m doing something great and noble and enriching. But that feeling doesn’t last long, and reality takes hold - I’m very far from home, with no idea what I’m doing with my life, and my funds are dwindling…
I would encourage any other members of my generation who are thinking of setting off for distant lands to do it - at the end of the day, Christine is right on target in that respect - but don’t do it without a larger plan in mind, or at least some notion of where your life is headed. You don’t want to find yourself up a creek without a paddle, or a plan.
Safe travels to all,
Andrew
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I’m a 24-year old who on pure luck has traveled to Holland and Belgium through a youth exchange program (well, me and some friends did sneak out to Paris for a day..hehe). And yes, traveling really does broaden your perspective about the world. Several important travel tips I learned:
1. To never forget to pack a smile and be generous in giving it to everyone you meet.
2. To never leave your values and what you hold dear despite whatever you see in other places.
3. To sample a local dish (and not grumble about it if it’s that bad).
4. To make as much memories as you can.
5. Discrimination based on color, religion or nationality is always present but it’s up to you how to handle it. (went to Hong Kong, China and Macau last year with some friends and to say that the Chinese authorities are something is an understatement..hehe)
And Christine, go travel to Spain!
will be subscribing to your blog from now on..it’s nice to know a kindred spirit ^_^
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I’m almost 22 and I’ll take this advice!
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oh gosh, i am 22! And I can totally hear my older self telling me this exact advice, In fact i’ve been hearing my older self say this for a while now. I know older self is totally right, this is the perfect time. I’m single, I don’t even have a job, I’m about to finish college.
but I am scared that I am not strong enough to do it. I don’t know how I could possibly afford to do it.
I’d tell myself to stop smoking weed.
Remember the dreams i had when i was a kid, cos they’re not impossible just becaause i’m older.
Just GET ON WITH IT…..
Don’t be put down be every obstacle i come across.
Save a bit of money. even if its a 10er a month!
just enjoy life!
I totally agree that every new kid out of college takes photocopying way to serious I know I did until I gave it all up for traveling and relaxing at home.
As you said #7 is great go out and travel.
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Realise that you are never going to earn a million, not going to live forever, not going to be all you can be and that, basically, life is going to do its best to f**k you up.
Then get over that and appreciate what you have now because no-one is ever going to make you understand that NOW is the best time to be alive and that you will never be able to do what you can now again.
My grandfather told me all the above back in the late 70s, wish I’d listened harder than I did and maybe I’d be have been living abroad, running my own business, zero debts, a loving wife and two wonderful boys a bit sooner than when I was 35.
My eldest has already taken the advice to heart and, so far, has had 8 different grad level jobs on 3 continents, He’s coming home for an extended stay this Autumn, with his girlfriend, to celebrate his 25th birthday with us.
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Pete
So very true! I loved reading the tips and advice, currently having my own quarter-life crisis, but I have only a temporary job, a new start in a new town and a huge desire to do something for which I have a great passion. I will certainly be taking everything I have read to heart and, although things are complicated now, I know that it will work out and I will eventually fullfil my dream of living in America and travelling the world!! Can’t wait!!
Happy travels everyone!
Rhiannon
good advice but people often don’t learn until they are old..